Dating Roundup: Kissing Skills, Compatibility Tests, and BDSM as an Orientation
New viral advice: kissing bell curve, early sex tests, and BDSM as a second orientation axis.
Critter offers a practical kissing framework: a basic kiss follows a bell curve of intensity at a slight angle, starting with less pressure. French kissing is trickier; the main mistake is forcing it. The key is paying attention and responding to feedback, similar to dancing. With deliberate practice and clear feedback, anyone can improve.
On sexual compatibility, Lizzy and Aella stress testing early before deep emotional investment. Aella notes that many married clients have incompatibility issues that undermine monogamy. She also proposes that BDSM orientation (submissive or dominant) should be considered on par with sexual orientation, as a second independent dimension. For many, especially female submissives, vanilla sex fails to turn them on. The roundup advises putting things to the test quickly or being prepared to walk away later.
- Critter's kissing model: bell curve of intensity, slight angle, avoid forcing French kissing.
- Lizzy and Aella: test sexual compatibility early to prevent long-term relationship failure.
- Aella: BDSM orientation (submission/dominance) is a second independent dimension, critical for many people's arousal.
Why It Matters
Practical dating advice on kissing and early compatibility testing can reduce mismatched relationships and improve sexual satisfaction.